I am not a crazy hot chile guy nor is my wife. Now her folks and family on the other hand eat absolute fire. I do like a tingle and agree that you need to get the capsaicin to really experience the flavor of the Chile but don’t understand the penchant to destroy one’s pallet with atomic, face melting, chile consumption.
I like Medium-medium hot but my wife likes mild (lol) so I end up getting mild chilies so she can eat them.